It is not easy being a shy guy when you want to deal with women.
Probably one of the most difficult challenges you face as a man. What causes your shyness??
For most of us it is how you were raised and the experiences you had growing up. If you didn't get it then, you wont get it now. There is a shame inside, when you can't talk to women and get them to like you. Your brain takes each approach that goes bad and makes it into a permanent memory. It only takes a few bad interactions to really mess you up badly.
But the key is to focus on what you want to happen, not the worst case situation.
You choose what you think every single time.
Shame- the feeling you get when you go and approach her. You can feel people watching you even if nobody is. This shame that you need a woman will eat at you if you let it. So acknowledge it and then put it aside. It is not helping you. Your mind is trying to take the easy way out.
But you know how bad you feel when you back away to avoid possible rejection. Everyone gets rejected, the only thing they do different is they ignore it.
You can't have every woman you want. So spend your time quickly finding out if she will go out with you or not. Then enjoy the date or keep looking. It is not the end of the world if she likes blond haired guys who play guitars and are in and out of prison. She makes her choice and then its time to move on to another woman.
There are billions of them.
Your job as a man is to find and date women and to sleep with them. Eventually your only job on earth is to have a child to keep the species alive. Don't forget this, you should have no shame. This is what you were born for.
Focus on this goal and women will like you. Sneaking around in the background as her little friend for 6 months, does not Work!
You should focus on being a good man who women like and want to date.
That means having goals, a nice place, nice car, nice clothes and lots of ambition.
She has enough problems, you are her strength and fun. Don't try to get involved in her life get her involved in yours. She is looking for more in life, more than she currently has. So offer her something new.
Something fun and some excitement. She is bored enough now, she really doesn't want to keep doing the same old thing. Women look for change, new surroundings and a guy who is going places and might add to her life.
Here are some good sites to check out if you have dating trouble and are too quiet and shy around women.
Shy Guy Dating Tips
How to Get A Girl
Flirting Formula
Monday, March 17, 2008
Shy Guy Dating Women Help
Posted by
M Johnson
at
1:02 PM
0
comments
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)